Is being intimidating good or bad non jew dating an orthodox jew
My advice: Keep smiling and being friendly, keep dressing well, don’t give up your ambition, and give your boyfriend a backhand upside the head for making as preposterous a statement as “because cute girls are scary.” Just…you know, slap him playfully and smile when you do it. JOE: I think that your situation is a good one to be in – as you said, those traits that could come across as intimidating are all positive ones. Instead, just realize that, if you want men to pursue you, you’ll need to wait for a bolder, more confident man to appear in your life, but you’ll need to realize that such a man will also likely be able to easily get his choice of women who are less ambitious/organized/etc. Such a man might be tempted to go for the easy score, especially at the college level. you could accept that such confidence for men often comes a bit later in life, along with more maturity, and that, for now, you might need to be the one who does the asking. Don’t do so much to gain the first that you sacrifice the second.To that end, do you get called intimidating by men all the time? Always having to make the first move could be caused by a host of different reasons — reasons that, unfortunately, I don’t have enough details about you to even start guessing.As for your friend, it seems like she was reaching for answers when trying to explain why you might be intimidating, so I don’t see why you should put much weight in what she said, either.For me, it was a complex about the fact no one would strike up conversations with me, which, once I got over it, resulted in plenty of dates and, eventually, the horror of wedding planning. That way you can be pickier, you won’t have to worry about intimidation, and you still feel wanted.I think you just need to figure the way of getting dates that works for you and run with it. But the thing is, being asked on a date may happen by chance, but who the hell wants to just sit back and wait for life to come to them?
After we’d been dating for a couple weeks he confessed to me that he’d liked me for a long time but was nervous to talk to me, “because cute girls are scary” and “what if you were a bitch?
She hesitated but admitted that I could be because I dress well, always look neat and am organized and ambitious.
I understand that to a certain extent, but am frustrated because I always try to smile and be friendly to people.
If it looks like you’re two steps ahead of us in that department – whether or not that’s true – we might be intimidated because we feel like we don’t have a chance. It sounds like you do have your shit together and that’s awesome.
There’s plenty you can do to put the people around you at ease without sacrificing your sense of fashion or driven nature.